AN INDISPENSABLE RELATIONSHIP GUIDE FOR EVERY WOMAN WHO HAS EVER TOLD HER PARTNER REALLY, DON T GO TO ANY TROUBLE FOR MY BIRTHDAYD THEN BEEN DISAPPOINTED WHEN HE DIDN T He Says That Dress Looks Great Let S Buy It You Hear He Really Loves Being With Me I Feel As Though We Ve Truly Bonded He Means For The Love Of God, The Last Eight Black Dresses You Tried On Looked Identical Just Buy One, So We Can Get Home In Time For The Game In What Men Say, What Women Hear, Dr Linda Papadopoulos Tackles The Saying, Hearing, And Listening Gap Between Men And Women That Can Complicate Every Step Of A Relationship, From First Dates And First Sex To Meeting The Parents And Living Happily Ever After An Expert On Cognitive Behavior Therapy, Which Connects People S Initial And Often Misguided Perception Of Something To The Emotional Reaction That Follows, Dr Linda Deconstructs The Common Thinking Errors That Can Hinder Communication Such As Personalizing Everything He S In A Bad Mood Clearly He S Thinking Of A Way To Dump Me And Jumping To Conclusions He Asked How Much Younger My Sister Is Than Me I Bet He Thinks I Look Like An Old Bat Compared To HerBy Applying Clinical Techniques To Fun And Oh So Familiar Examples, Dr Linda Helps Readers Eliminate Unnecessary Relationship Anxiety And Reevaluate The Way They Think About Themselves, Their Partners, And The World Around Them The book puts a new light on an issue as old as the world, affecting a large proportion of women and men the problems of communication between these two camps, depending on the stage they are in their relationship first date, when it creates physical intimacy, the dreaded moment when we meet each other s parents and living in two after marriage Highly recommend the book is full of practical advices easy to apply When I first began reading this book, I thought I wouldn t gain much Right off the bat, the author adheres to many stereotypes that need to be challenged However, this book did help me come to the realization that maybe I do hear things my boyfriend isn t actually saying and that I try to create a meaning beyond the words that are said I would suggest this book if you re wanting a insight though slightly biased into ways to improve communication in your relationships. Although it reads a bit like an overlong Cosmo article, a bit cold, distant, and stereotyped, I found this book to be a good introduction to the large communication gap between traditionally socialized and gender normed women and men Please don t go into this expecting to read anything that is not based on gross generalizations, however, within those generalizations and somewhat ridiculous examples some essential truths shine through listening to what a partner actually says is important, as is listening to what might be implied but left unsaid Doing this through the lens of your partners socialization, often based on gender, is smart And dating intelligently is tough business that requires constant examining of our own biases, expectations, and assumptions even before we begin to consider another s If you are already adequate at communication you will find this repetitive and trite, but as a scientific evolutionary perspective and psychology based refresher and reminder to stop and listen, this book serves its purpose. Interesting, though I would hope most of it isn t true because it puts too much power on the guy I did learn infidelity can be emotional e.g confiding in someone as well as physical. . this is a good book for learning how to communicate with your partner. For peope who like the business type dating came, this may come in handybut it would never work for me.Am I the only one left who believes the heart chooses You can definitely tell the author writes for Cosmo UK It reads sort of like it Surprisingly, she s a real therapist This would be a useful book for those who want the lite version of gender differences in communication For real stuff, read Deborah Tannen.