MOBI Tracy Thompson ☆ The Ghost in the House Motherhood Raising Children and ☆

An award winning reporter for the Washington Post Tracy Thompson was thirty four when she was hospitalized and put on suicide watch during a major depressive episode This event the culmination of than twenty years of silent suffering became the point of departure for an in depth groundbreaking book on depression and her struggle with the disease The Beast shattered stereotypes and inspired countless readers to confront their own battles with mental illness Having written that book and having found the security of a happy marriage Thompson assumed that she had learned to manage her illness But when she took on one of the most emotionally demanding jobs of all—being a mother—depression returned with fresh vengeanceVery uickly Thompson realized that virtually everything she had learned up to then about dealing with depression was now either inadeuate or useless In fact maternal depression was a different beast altogether She tackled her problem head on meticulously investigating the latest scientific research and collecting the stories of nearly 400 mothers with depression What she found was startling a problem widespread than she or any other mother struggling alone with this affliction could have imagined Women make up nearly 12 million of the 19 million Americans affected by depression every year experiencing episodes at nearly twice the rate that men do Women suffer most freuently between the ages of twenty five and forty four—not coincidentally the primary childbearing yearsThe Ghost in the House the result of Thompson's extensive studies is the first book to address maternal depression as a lifelong illness that can have profound ramifications for mother and child A striking blend of memoir and journalism here is an invaluable resource for the millions of women who are white knuckling their way through what should be the most satisfying years of their lives Thompson offers her readers a concise summary of the cutting edge research in this field deftly written prose and above all hope

10 thoughts on “The Ghost in the House Motherhood Raising Children and Struggling with Depression

  1. says:

    This book was just what I needed Tracy Thompson is a journalist She is also a daughter a wife and a mother She has been all of these things successfully despite living and struggling with crippling depression and anxiety In her second book a follow up to her memoir detailing her battle to learn to live with her disease Thompson has examined the effect of motherhood on depression She surveyed and interviewed hundreds of women narrowing it down from thousands of responses and in the Ghost in the House presents the information she learned from these women history and science Only recently has depression and in particular post partum depression begun to be accepted as a real problem However Thompson contends that it is even worse than that Post partum depression is usually defined as the onset of depression in the year following the birth of child and tends to be attributed to the extreme changes and fluctuations in hormones But what if there is something what if depression is something that continues to linger crippling a woman's ability to be a mother The author calls this maternal depression From my experience she is spot on the money What started for me as PPD has morphed into a depression that hasn't abated These should be years that I cherish raising my three young boys lucky enough to be able to stay home and watch them grow up Instead I struggle to get out of bed in the morning scream cry throw things and isolate myself I hate myself for feeling this way and yet I'm powerless to stop it What this book did for me though was to show me that I'm not alone Unfortunately it has also taught me that my children are at a very high risk for inheriting my disease and behaviors I'm only the latest in a long history of depressed women in my family and I already see my oldest beginning to fall prey to the same beast Thankfully this book also shows me that I can live with this I can change turn things around for me and my kids My only complaint is that I wish this book offered other solutions besides anti depressants therapy and friendship Yes I know that this is the best way for many to solve their problems but I also feel like there should be resources available Forcing yourself to go make friends when you can barely get out of bed in the morning is nearly impossible Therapy and medication can be cost prohibitive for many I just feel like there is something and because she seemed to gloss over the solutions focusing instead on the problem this information seemed to be lacking

  2. says:

    An amazing funny damn you wouldn't think a book on depression could be funny but it really is book and one that every OB or midwife or anyone dealing with postpartum women should read Thompson talks about the genetics of major depression the relationship to PPD there's some really fascinating stuff about postpartum OCD how depression affects your children treatment both therapy and medication it's just an excellent book Short well written informativeI've had this book for over a year but didn't read it because I thought it was a depressing topic It's not if anything the book is really uplifting And not in a cheesy self help think happy way but in a subtle very honest gritty way

  3. says:

    I thought it was depressing Go figure

  4. says:

    Part memoir part gathering of information both from scientific studies and anecdotal interviews this book explores a range of issues surrounding parenting and motherhood It's a book I needed to read probably needed to read about two years ago just before my daughter was born I could have learned that my serotonin levels were already wonk a doo from pregnancy that the last trimester would certainly cause me to be irritable as I battled hormonal fluxes and then post birth that word failure that wrapped itself around me in a myriad of ways both professionally and physically 42 hour labor many choices I didn't want to make made ending in a c section And that dark period after in the late winter The one without words strung to itAnd the slump in this second pregnancy And the rally And that unending love I have for my husband and my daughter my never regretting or wanting anything else save for me to be better Reading one section in the book where a woman swallows 36 sleeping pills one for each year of her life because she wanted her husband and child to be able to replace her for someone better How familiar that was how simple the words and how they were mine too How she woke up in hospital angry How she is still here now I also began to understand what happened in my childhood too I didn't get it what happened when we moved from Chattanooga to Green Bay why my mother slunk into herself and watched television all day terrible crappy shows how she had once made literature and travel and exploring the magical world glow for us How she'd rage at us around our friends how our friends would speak of it too would whisper later how badly they felt for me how when I was seventeen my girlfriend walked out of the house in the middle of a tirade and I had to find her miles away and go back to her house How that was the year I began to cut myself and to not be able to get my lungs to properly fill with airIt came back when I was teaching high school too that tight chested feeling and suddenly I was the one who was raging but it was the dogs who looked at me balefully I wasn't married yet but we owned our house and we were on our way I wanted children I didn't want this me bashing a pomegranate on the floor of our kitchen in frustration at what was happening at my jobI'm glad I went through all of that before I got to here The women in this book have this anger too this all connected to depression and my eyes popped in recognition And here I was thinking depression meant sadness meant folding into yourself and lighting candles and listening to Mazzy Star ah me in high school Depression was supposed to be peaceful to those around you frustrating but mostly tears and closed doors But there's that edge to it too the one where patience is worn thin and I have it now again as my body creates life and I struggle to maintain treatment I'm so so grateful that my biggest rage came into an empty room came when my daughter wasn't even sought after and I got better before I could smother her in that depression and anxiety So many women don't get treatment until well after so many can't admit they need the help can't afford the help c'mon Obamacare feel it is a phase that will passI would recommend this book to anyone who feels familiarity with any of it because it's not just about commiseration which is in fact a huge help and naming the thing and knowing it's real and it's physical and not imaginary nor are you a terrible human being nor is it your fault nor is it something you can just snap out of The book discusses how to help yourself and also for those of us who are petrified of passing these genes on to our children and yes it is chemical and yes it is in our genes there are ways to help it not manifest There are strategies and ways to allow our children to take the good That's so hopeful

  5. says:

    This book explains what depression is and how it happens and how to live with it I really liked the information about coping with depression as a family particularly trying to safeguard our children as best we can against depression because although there is a hereditary aspect children of depressed parents aren't destined to be depressed The author talks about how depression shouldn't control your life and the importance of making good choices and being honest and realistic with yourself as well as advocating for your mental health She says people who successfully deal with depression have the humility to recognize they are imperfect I found that very insightful It is a great book and I think every mother and everyone who has a mother should read it

  6. says:

    How one woman learned about depression and how it affected her children A depressed mother is always trying to cope Depression can manifest in anger irritability isolation and fatigue Recommends methods of dealing with depression including medication therapy time alone exercise etc Notes and interviews from real moms who experienced depression and were willing to tell their story The medical community is just now recognizing depression as a disease OBs do not always acknowledge or treat depression

  7. says:

    Tracy Thompson knows whereof she speaks and as a white college educated middleclass American mother I'm grateful for her insight and humor She sets herself a hard task untangling the web of nature vs nurture as it applies to depression in ourselves and most urgently how we might avoid passing it along to our children Her conversations with researchers and her personal reflections are most valuable The anecdotes gleaned from her own polling and research pile up without shedding much light on her uestions

  8. says:

    I read this as part of an online book club with other moms struggling with and in recovery from postpartum mood disorders and I found it very helpful It definitely has the potential to be triggering if read too early in one's recovery but I still plan on recommending it to friends There are lots of good thoughts in here The one that made the most difference though was to have in print right in front of my eyes that I was not alone in my fight with depression It is so helpful to have this reminder

  9. says:

    I found some of the scenarios very relatable She definitely hit on some common issues of motherhood I would not say the book was overly helpful but I did find some comofort in knowing that I was not the only one thinking some of these things

  10. says:

    Can't rate this one it was incredible As a mom with depression this book was so real to what I experience I couldn't keep reading don't need it in real life and my books But i wish everyone else would read it to see what it is like to live with depression and raise children Thank you Tracy Thomson for your searingly honest and accurate book