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From the editors of the groundbreaking anthology Love InshAllah comes a provocative new exploration of the most intimate parts of Muslim men's lives Muslim men are stereotyped as either oversexed Casanovas willing to die for seventy two virgins in heaven or controlling big bearded husbands ready to rampage at the hint of dishonor The truth is there are millions of Muslim men trying to figure out the complicated terrain of love sex and relationships just like any other American manIn Salaam Love Ayesha Mattu and Nura Maznavi provide a space for American Muslim men to speak openly about their romantic lives offering frank funny and insightful glimpses into their hearts and bedrooms The twenty two writers come from a broad spectrum of ethnic racial and religious perspectives including orthodox cultural and secular Muslims reflecting the strength and diversity of their faith community and of AmericaBy raising their voices to share stories of love and heartbreak loyalty and betrayal intimacy and insecurity these Muslim men are leading the way for all men to recognize that being open and honest about their feelings is not only okay it's intimately connected to their lives and critical to their happiness and well being

10 thoughts on “Salaam Love

  1. says:

    I received this book in a First Reads giveawaySome essays were better than others I think it gets better as it goes along but I thought this was an interesting glimpse into the lives of Muslim Americans It has a glossary that defines various words relating to Islam and it seems to be targeted towards people who are not Muslim themselves but who are interested in learning about other cultures This is not necessarily a book I would have purchased for myself but it was a uick read and I enjoyed it

  2. says:

    Hold on let me wipe the tears from my eyes so I can see while I type this up Please note the following might contain spoilers This book was such a pleasant surprise I had read Love Inshallah but had no idea this was going to happen When I found it in the bookstore I suealed in delight and rushed to the cashier The stories were so refreshing and real they dealt with that part of our lives most of us keep under wraps I was so freaking pleasantly surprised to find there were stories that even represented the LGBT Muslim community This book truly is something special Can I hope for a seual of some sort? Perhaps a book dedicated to elderly muslims and relationships and sex? Is that too much to ask? On a side note there were so many stories were from California I just came back from a trip my first to San Francisco Cali and it made me miss it sooooo much I'd love to go back and explore the Muslim community there I'm so grateful that this book gave Muslim American men a space to discuss their experiences I just love it so muchI wonder what my local MSA would say about it

  3. says:

    I appreciated this book as there are not many platforms which allow men to fully express their feelings without shamestigma or embarrassment In these short stories the men detail their very different experiences with love loss and everything in between It is an honest and intimate look at what it means to grow up in an immigrant family and what it means to be a man in today's society and in particular a muslim manThe greater impact of this book however is not necessarily its examination of cultural identity but rather its unintentional message that we are all one people The book provides a glimpse of love from all perspectives black white gay straight conservative liberal etc At the end of the day we are all similar than we are different That's why I believe this is a book anyone can relate to whether male or female muslim or not

  4. says:

    An interesting read but I much preferred Love InshAllah I found the final section Sabr In Sickness and Health to be the book's strongest point and enjoyed several of the stories exploring race and sexual identity As a whole though I found it difficult to relate with or connect deeply to many of the stories and found the uality of writing to be vastly inconsistent Some stories were riddled with typos and others were full of meandering self deprecating asides that made them difficult to finish I wanted badly to like this book as much as its predecessor but ended up wishing these stories had depth and had been edited closely

  5. says:

    Interesting look into the untold stories of the love lives of Muslim men Would recommend it overall but I feel that the book's precursor Love Insha'Allah was interesting and covered a broader range of narratives

  6. says:

    On the heels of the popular groundbreaking anthology Love Inshallah American Muslim Women on Love Sex and Intimacy comes Salaam Love – the other side of the story As Muslim women become proactive in sharing their voices and experiences in the public sphere a uniue phenomenon has occurred Muslim men don’t have the same opportunity to share their own deeply personal stories Salaam Love is an effort to create a ‘safe space’ for Muslim men to discuss some of their most vulnerable momentsThe anthology is divided into three sections “Umma It Takes a Village” shares stories that revolve around the role of family and friends in the search for marriage and love; “Sirat The Journey” includes inward reflections of each writer’s transformational experience with spiritual and romantic love; and finally “Sabr In Sickness and in Health” goes beyond the fairytale ending and explores the deeper less glamorous aspects of true loveJust as its predecessor Love Inshallah reflected the realities and experiences of a widely varied Muslim Ummah so too do the contributors to Salaam Love come from different ethnic and theological backgrounds There were several essays which stood out to me both in uality of writing and in content – amongst them Sam Pierstorff’s “Soda Bottles and Zebra Skins” “Mother’s Curse” by Arsalan Ahmed “Just One Kiss” by Maher Rahman “Planet Zero” by John Austin “The Promise” by Alan Howard and “Fertile Ground” by Khizer Husain All of these essays shared something in common unmistakeable authenticity excellent writing and touching upon issues within the Muslim community that have been previously ignored but are undeniably a reality From extramarital affairs amongst ‘religious’ Muslims being rejected for marriage because of race fertility vs adoption and the heartbreak of losing a loved one these essays echoed with a rawness of emotion and relevance All these topics are still considered taboo in the Muslim community and yet are faced by thousands of Muslims not just in the West but all around the world Although I have often read works by female authors related to these issues I was startled to realize that it was the first time I had read about them from the perspective of Muslim men who have experienced these matters first hand At the risk of sounding cliché it was truly enlightening to realize that men – whom many women have come to think of as the perpetrators of most injustice – are eually affected at an emotional level and seek to change things for the better This glimpse at the challenges and struggles of Muslim men in their journeys of love and experiences with lust is must needed; all too often we buy into the idea that men experience such things shallowly with little introspection or consideration for their actions Instead the contributors to Salaam Love reminded us of the humanity of men a prompt to help us recognize that when it comes to matters of the heart gender means little Allah al Wadud al Muallib al uloob is the One Who controls our hearts without the preconceived culturally structured ideas of what men and women should feel; it is He who evokes in our souls a yearning for love of Him and for earthly love as well However I will admit that I also found myself somewhat disappointed by Salaam Love In comparison to Love Inshallah which I found engaging at every point with only a couple of stories which did not resonate with me all that much the remaining essays in Salaam Love came off as mediocre at best Some rambled on for far too long causing me to lose my interest; most ended up sounding like a recycled version of “brown Muslim boy just wants to be with a girl” Nonetheless Salaam Love is enjoyable overall and is still a book that I would recommend It is a one of a kind compilation that reminds men and women alike that the hearts of men are not so strange or unfathomable as those of women; Muslim men like Muslim women struggle with temptation and desire seek love and security and pray not just for a happily ever after but for a happily ever afterlife

  7. says:

    Sweet thoughtful perspectives of US Muslim men The stereotype in the media sees Muslim men who wear beards make their wives cover their hair are very religious could be terrorists etc This book is a collection of essays of various Muslim men who are infrom the US and their struggles with their searches in love marriage partnership etc Like many people really Some are funny some are touching some are heartbreaking Even if you know nothing about Islam and Muslims or even the US I'd wager you'd still identify with many of the stories Struggling with attraction to women OR men how to obey the teachings of Islam yet still find a partner finding the right partner the ache and pain of the end of the relationship whether via a breakup a death family intervention Maybe Islam plays a role but sometimes it doesn't That's all there is to it I'm typically not a fan of essay collections but this held my attention I didn't know Muslim men as well as I knew some Muslim women but even then I could still understand and could see similarities to my Muslim female friends But as with any collection from a diverse set of authors they are all men but they have different ethnicities economic backgrounds sexual orientations etc some essays are much stronger than others Overall the collection was interesting but not every essay will hold your attention It was a good read I'd recommend it even if you don't care for essays simply because I'm not sure if a topic like this is ever really addressed in media Despite some of the sad stories it was a nice read and it was a good change of pace books If you're not familiar with the US pop culturesociety you might be a bit confused it's definitely for a US centered audience but the stories of love courtship marriage etc are probably fairly universal I had hoped to read the companion book 'Love InshAllah' either right before or right after this one but my library doesn't have it Even so I'd recommend this anyway I borrowed from the library and that was right for me But it would perhaps be a good gift for the right person 

  8. says:

    This book really hit home for me The first man I was ever in love with was a Muslim man and while we didn't end up together I was left being in love with something else and that was the faith and culture of IslamAt first I picked up this book to cope when we first started becoming closer as I wanted understanding into his life and values and what I walked away with was a very full heart This book made me cry laugh and feel both hopeless and hopeful at different moments But something I realized with this book is everybody is different this culture is truly fascinating to me and with each story I felt connected with people's different views on things and this book really gripped my heart Split into different sections each story portrayed another Muslim man's personal experience with love in varying different life situations Muslims and non Muslims alike could read and enjoy this book the way I did with every fiber of my being I give this the highest rating goodreads will allow me

  9. says:

    Thoroughly enjoyed reading the diverse essays by American Muslim men in this collection about love sex and intimacy I was humbled by the candor and vulnerability that each contributor shared through his writing Feelings I know all too well having written first under a pen name and then in later editions under my own name for the Love InshAllah book After reading Love InshAllah I was left feeling hopeful about love and relationships while this book has left me reflecting deeply about the meaning of love intimacy and how we forge relationships At a Salaam Love book reading editor Ayesha Mattu reflected on how there has been relatively insiginificant pushback over this book unlike the pushback and criticism received following the publication of Love InshAllah I hope to be considered a part of those who helped create space for women and men to safely and honestly tell their stories

  10. says:

    This was great I enjoyed it than Love Inshallah I think it was because the stories were from a male's perspective which is not something I am used to reading I loved the range of stories and particularly enjoyed A Pair of Photos Ahmed Ali Akbar Planet Zero John Austin Fertile Ground Khizer Husain and The Promise Alan Howard Each of these men had strikingly different experiences when it came to love and relationships and this was a refreshing fascinating read